Are You Happy or Merry?
What a great time of year to assess this question. Are you happy, or in my world, it would be: Are You Merry? But either way, which is it…are you really happy?
If you think about it, we weren’t put on this Earth to have a terrible time, right? Oh sure, not every day will be…kumbaya but in the overall scheme of things how would you rank your happiness on a scale of 1-10?
Three husbands later, I can certainly say that I struggled in this area for quite some time. The choices that I made were definitely not in line with who I was and what I wanted out of my life. It was almost as though I was setting myself up for failure, but I was totally oblivious to it.
That was until I learned that my ego had run amuck. I had been looking outside myself for the answer…for happiness. It’s so easy to point the finger, to place blame on someone or something else. It was easy not having to look at the choices I made as the culprit.
My ego, often lovingly referred to as, “edging God out”, had been in control all along. My ego had control of the wheel and my life. It doesn’t matter whether you are religious or not, or even believe in God or not, what does matter that looking outside yourself for your happiness doesn’t work…ever. “Edging God out,” refers to seeking or expecting that the world and everyone in it is here to make sure that you are happy and that “your” needs are met. Sounds pretty preposterous when it‘s explained like that, do you agree?
You’re the only one that can make you happy or in my world, I’m the only one that can make me “merry.”
Here is a great exercise I like to use with my coaching clients to help deliver this message. I didn’t design it, I only put a new and deeper spin on it. Download the workbook with instructions here!
This exercise is quite eye opening, if you take it seriously and take the time to do the work.
Now that you are armed with a visual of where your happiness or fulfillment level is, it’s time to take that finger and point it right back at yourself. You have the answer, you are the magic pill, only you can make you happy…merry.
Begin today by noticing how blessed you are. Sure you have some work to do, after all, we’re all “under construction.” Grab a pair of rose-colored glasses and set out to see, feel and experience life on the happy…no, no, no…merry side.
Cheers to going and growing!
P.S. Let me know your biggest challenge this year as well as your most passionate area. I love hearing your stories!